Rebased onto current dev, split into 3 logical parts (all validated):
1. CPU portability (serve-mode _O_BINARY pipe fix — stock main hangs on MinGW without it; RAM detection cap 0->9/layer; POSIX guards for select/mmap/madvise; warmup script).
2. AVX-VNNI 128-bit int8/int4 dot kernel (Alder Lake+/Meteor Lake+), bit-identical to AVX2 (author-verified on Meteor Lake; compiles out to AVX2 elsewhere) + _mm256_extracti128_si256 typo fix that blocked -march=native.
3. CUDA DLL via LoadLibrary, gated behind CUDA_DLL=1 (host never links cudart; silent CPU fallback if absent; author-verified on RTX 5070 Ti).
Validated here: make check 59/59, oracle 32/32 TF, Windows cross-compile clean + glm.exe loads+runs via WSL interop. Fixes the #123 Windows build failure.